Lover's Quarrel

"Amantium irae amoris integratio est."  ~Terence

The quarrel of lovers is the renewal of love

   When two people love each other there can be irritations. "Conversations are negotiations for closeness," says professor of linguistics Deborah Tannen. Intimacy is key in a world of connection and a continuing balance act.
   Lover's quarrels are conflicts that test the relationship, but like boats that can take on water over the bow and still keep moving, the healthy relationships survive.

    The great poet Robert Frost wrote a poem stating that for his epitaph he would like the words on his tombstone to  say: "He Had A Lover's Quarrel with the World."
   Whatever his criticism of the world he may have had, he wanted us to know that his love for us is stronger.
He has given us an important message for survival. Let us remember that our arguments should bring us together. That type of love is enduring and extends beyond death. The group Shenandoah agree.

Toward the end of the war, after failing to reach agreement over how to structure the peace, Churchill wrote to Roosevelt, just a week before the President died: “I regard the matter as closed and to prove my sincerity I will use one of my very few Latin quotations, ‘Amantium irae amoris integratio est.’” Translation: “Lovers’ quarrels always go with true love.”

Roosevelt and Churchill